Recommended Material
Our Favorite Books
Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist while Supplying Yourself
By: Shahida Arabi
A deep delve into the psychology behind narcissistic abuse and the lasting effects it has on survivors/victims, including the biochemical bonds and trauma bonds formed with the abuser.
This book explains:
•The red flags of narcissistic behavior and covert manipulation tactics, including subtle signs many don’t catch in the early stages; the motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist's manipulation.
•Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur.
•How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle.
•Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing.
•Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose.
•How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.
Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
By: Jackson MacKenzie
Real stories which aim to help people recover from emotionally abusive relationships with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people.
Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
By: Shannon Thomas
One of my personal favorites, Shannon Thomas does an excellent job breaking down the stages of recovery of psychological abuse and includes almost one hundred pages of suggested journal entries in the back of the book. A true must have for anyone in the recovery stages of a psychologically abusive relationship, regardless of the type (family, romantic, professional, religious).
The New Rule of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
By: Terrence Real
Although the title of the book claims this is a guide for marriage, it really can be applicable for all relationship types.
How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before you Get Involved
By: Sandra L. Brown
A straightforward book coupling real women's experiences with research and the expertise of a domestic violence counselor to help women identify a dangerous man before they become too involved.
The Real Shark’s Tank: The Truth About Online Dating for Women
By: L.V. Krause
A humorous outlook on the trials and tribulations of one women’s journey into online dating. L.V. Krause does an excellent job of delving into the psychology behind the users of online dating while adding a comic twist with her own personal stories.
Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home
By: Toko-pa Turner
Another one of my personal favorites, Toko-pa Turner has a utterly beautiful way with words and describing a longing that each of us can relate to.
Feel like you don’t belong? You’re not alone. The world has never been more connected, yet people are lonelier than ever. Whether we feel unworthy, alienated, or anxious about our place in the world — the absence of belonging is the great silent wound of our times.
Most people think of belonging as a mythical place, and they spend a lifetime searching for it in vain. But what if belonging isn’t a place at all? What if it’s a skill that has been lost or forgotten?
With her signature depth and eloquence, Toko-pa maps a path to Belonging from the inside out. Drawing on myth, stories and dreams, she takes us into the origins of our estrangement, reframing exile as a necessary initiation into authenticity. Then she shares the competencies of belonging: a set of ancestral practices to heal our wounds and restore true belonging to our lives and to the world.